Just A Few Reasons to Turn Back

Yep, there were just a few problems…

The day was finally here, we were taking our boat out all by ourselves and going sailing! We felt ready, we felt excited, we were totally scared to death! We pulled up at the lunch ramp and at that point we should have turned around and gone home. The parking lot was completely full of trucks with empty boat trailers. It turned out it was some sort of fishing season opener and EVERYONE was out with their boats. But we were determined to do it! We were ready!

The second reason we should have aborted our mission…it was really windy. Now remember the only other time when we had our boat in this bay there was NO wind at all and we had to motor about. Well not today. It was blowing, but we still felt we could handle it.

Light Winds Never Made a Skillful Sailor

We got to work on raising our mast and disconnecting the boat from the trailer. All seemed fine, just some random bickering due to extreme tension. The boat came off the trailer easily and I parked the rig. At this point I was still thinking this is going to be a piece of cake, just jump on, start the motor, point the boat into the wind, raise the sails, and off we go…no problem.  But alas, no.

Once I got on the boat and we pushed off from the dock the boat started moving in the wrong direction and not just a little bit. The tide was coming in and it was a big tidal swing so the water was really moving. Here was our next HUGE mistake. We checked the tides, of course, but we didn’t take into consideration the amount of swing between the high and low. In our bay it makes a big difference and with our lack of experience we should only be sailing on a neap tide day (a tide just after the first or third quarters of the moon when there is the least difference between high and low water). So now the boat is moving in the wrong direction and I’m yelling at Landon to use the motor to get us going correctly, but nothing was happening. We are heading towards the boats in the anchorage and the motor wasn’t strong enough to fight the tide. Don’t forget the wind is also blowing and it’s not helping matters, it’s working completely against us at the moment. I’m sure we are going to hit another boat and parish at sea. Goodbye.

At some point, after several minutes of screaming at each other, we hoisted the mainsail and started heading in the right direction, with the motor running still. I was thrilled, we were doing it, we were really sailing! Sort of. Landon had the opposite reaction and wanted to take the sail down and go in. So our next argument ensued. We finally agreed, and with the wind at our backs (which makes it seem so much lighter than it really is) we sailed away from the dock and launch ramp, not knowing if we would ever see them again…

No Experience Required…

No Experience Required…

There are so many people out there sailing around the world who started with no experience. They picked a coastal city, bought a sailboat, and set sail on a new life full of adventure…no experience required. At least that’s what they say. Based on my few experiences on the water, that idea sounds terrifying. But I’m a bit of a chicken, some would call it being conservative, but let’s be honest, some people are just fearless and some are not. I fall into the later category. That doesn’t mean I’m not going to cast off one day, but I would like to know what I’m doing first. Taking classes, getting certified, practicing, etc. these are all things I plan to do to prepare for this great adventure. Getting experience even though it’s not required.

It’s the same with other life changing decisions and events as well…no experience required.  Having kids for example, that’s terrifying. Isn’t it crazy that we can bring children into the world to rear and raise with no training, no class, no certificate! Of course, most of us did some studying and we took a few classes, mostly on the delivery itself, because let’s face it that was the most terrifying part of this whole thing right? Giving birth. Not. Even. Close! We are allowed to bring these precious creatures home from the hospital without even a learner’s permit.

Somehow we muddle through and before you know it they are teenagers and at this point it’s all you can do to make it through the day without  a three car pileup on the interstate. I keep wondering, how I’m going to come out of this alive? Why didn’t I take more time to prepare for parenting? How could I have done all of this better?

Somehow we do survive and then there are the amazing days, the ones no book or class could ever explain or teach. The moments your child confirms that you have done a good job, a great job, raising them. It might be an observation of a insightful interaction they have with a teacher or adult, or seeing them help their sibling or classmate through a tough day, or an unexpected kindness they show to you. In this moment you know you did it, you raised a person, a good, kind, compassionate, inquisitive person…no experience required.

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